17 | Your Young Adult: The Critical Art of Validating

Do you want her to hear you? You must hear her first. Do you want him to see your perspective? You must see his perspective first.  Being SEEN and HEARD is important to any relationship that has depth and vitality. The person in front of you has DIGNITY.  God made him or her.  Recognizing the…

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16 | Relating to Your Young Adult: Collaborating

Our children, at any age, are always hoping to feel loved by us.  Receiving love from your mom and dad is a primary psychological drive. It’s a reason why psychologists are always trying to get you to straighten out your relationships with your parents.  As parents, let’s make sure we fulfill our role. It’s our…

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15 | Relating to Your Young Adult: Do’s and Don’ts

Asking Permission Advice. We love to dish it out.  We hate unsolicited advice. It feels like we are being judged.  So often, unsolicited advice is not on point. It doesn’t take into account what we’ve tried to do already. Or our circumstances, values, perspectives, strengths, and limitations.  Our young adult kids hate it, too.  Thing…

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12 | HAPPINESS: it sets you up for success in everything that you do

We are talking about happiness, striving for happiness, because it’s important in everything you do.  Happiness sets us up for success – in spiritual life, and in areas of life including the buckets of Work, Love, and Play.  Create an ethic to choose happiness.  We often consciously prioritize certain activities or areas of life to…

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11 | HAPPINESS: The Pleasant Life, the Good Life, and the Meaningful Life

We’ve been discussing happiness.  Aquinas views the desire for happiness as ingrained in and being inseparable from, our humanity. We want to be with God because we desire happiness. We are made for Him.  There are some schools of thought based on an idea that we should be disinterested in happiness and entirely focused on…

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