Archive for June 2022

St Paul’s letters are hard to understand. It’s important to read scripture and understand what it meant to the person that wrote it, and the persons for whom it was written. In the case of St. Paul, both the writer and the audience were first-century Jewish persons.   When we don’t make the effort to read…

Do you want her to hear you? You must hear her first. Do you want him to see your perspective? You must see his perspective first.  Being SEEN and HEARD is important to any relationship that has depth and vitality. The person in front of you has DIGNITY.  God made him or her.  Recognizing the…

Our children, at any age, are always hoping to feel loved by us.  Receiving love from your mom and dad is a primary psychological drive. It’s a reason why psychologists are always trying to get you to straighten out your relationships with your parents.  As parents, let’s make sure we fulfill our role. It’s our…

Asking Permission Advice. We love to dish it out.  We hate unsolicited advice. It feels like we are being judged.  So often, unsolicited advice is not on point. It doesn’t take into account what we’ve tried to do already. Or our circumstances, values, perspectives, strengths, and limitations.  Our young adult kids hate it, too.  Thing…

Always a Parent My Uber driver was having a mildly heated cell phone conversation. He hung up and apologized to me with a super-charming Middle Eastern accent, “Sorry, I had to take that call from my kid. He’s 35 years old. Oh my Godt, the parenting, it never ends! Never! “  He was frustrated but…