thought traps

78 | Don’t take it Personally


We take things personally because it cuts to our survival instinct. What’s at stake, in our brains, isn’t “do I get the topping on the ice cream?”;  it’s “ Do I get to eat today?”  Our brains are always looking for threats. We quickly interpret what people say or do as being directed at “me.” If you are trying to bring that virtuous, charitable, wise “you” to the party, it’s so helpful to create some distance and boundaries around the stories you tell yourself. Listen to the podcast for some helpful thoughts! 

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We take things personally because it cuts to our survival instinct. What’s at stake, in our brains, isn’t “do I get the topping on the ice cream?”;  it’s “ Do I get to eat today?”  Our brains are always looking for threats. We quickly interpret what people say or do as being directed at “me.” If you are trying to bring that virtuous, charitable, wise “you” to the party, it’s so helpful to create some distance and boundaries around the stories you tell yourself. Listen to the podcast for some helpful thoughts! 

Want to become more Empowered?

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karen and curtis herbert as a midlife coaches

We are Karen and Curtis Herbert, founders of The Empowered Catholic Podcast. Empowerment is a word we use for getting the whole person in alignment with the Spirit. How could that change your life?

Start the journey

Learn more about working with us here:

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